In my young age, my idea of a ideal woman was a combination of Samantha Fox and Madhuri Dixit. Though both the ladies in question had nothing in common, Samantha Fox was the perennial pin up model while what can one day about the lady with the perfect smile. Sweet dreams are made of these! I dwelled in this dream world for quite some time.
At the age of 28, she came as a breath of fresh air, into our small home, which was occupied by me, my mother and father, both retired.
Our natures were totally opposite, if I was an introvert she was extrovert. If I was the silent type, she was talkative. If I was usually withdrawn, she was a go-getter. But what really endeared her to our family, was the maturity displayed by her in nurturing and maintaining relationships. Whether it was the nearest of relatives or family friends, all were treated with utmost respect and empathy. This was an area, where I was certainly weak in.
She is the one who is responsible for the best possible upbringing of our daughter. She was always treated as the apple of our eyes but at the same time, disciplined with a firm hand, whenever it was demanded. In comparison, I was the emotional fool when it came to our daughter. There were no two options where studies were concerned.
She inculcated the discipline of working to a defined time table in our daughter, which she follows till date, when studying for her engineering exams. At the same time, she is the person in whom our daughter confides, whenever she faces any challenges, whether personal or in her student life. I am proud to say that our daughter displays the same level headedness which she has inherited from her mother.
Between the two of us, she is the more practical one. Today, if we are the proud owners of a house of our own, no prizes for guessing who is responsible. Same is the case with finances, she has the penchant for keeping and maintaining records, most diligently. She shows the courage to take decisions and stands by them.
Today, her typical day starts early at 5.45 am. with few minutes of meditation. Since, both, the daughter and herself have to leave early, the early morning is dedicated to preparing breakfast and serving it to the daughter, so that she is ready to face the day. The tiffin for the daughter is ready by the time she is ready to leave, at 7.30. Then its time for her own breakfast and she is ready to go.
Her high EQ enables her to successfully lead teams in her office space with distinction. The same attitude which is displayed at home, is also apparent in her office life and she has won many ‘Fire in the Belly’ awards, as recognition. While she is excelling in the work space, her mind is multi-tasking, coordinating with our daughter to ensure that her travel home from her college is well arranged.
She coordinates with the maids over phone to ensure that everything is managed to her satisfaction on the home front. And on reaching home, it’s time to make the arrangements for timely dinner.
Once dinner is out of the way, it’s not resting time. Still plans have to be made for the next day, plans for what vegetables to eat, plans for daughter’s travel to the college, plans, plans, plans…And so the cycle continues. I must say, we function as a happy family, only due to the efforts of my perfect woman.
When I see her, going about her day, I really admire the resilience of many such women, whose everyday struggle, to build a family, is a task much difficult and onerous, than building a business.
Hats off, to all such brave and resilient women.